Vivek Oberoi is known for fondly speaking about his relationship with his wife Priyanka Alva. The couple met in an arranged marriage set-up, but all they needed was one meeting with each other to know they are made for each other. There has been several instances where the Bollywood star-turned-businessman has shared his love story with his wife. Now, after around 14 years of marriage, Vivek Oberoi spoke about the importance of marriage and how the gesture for your partner shifts from grand to simple over the years and basics of a healthy marriage.
In a recent conversation with MensXP, Vivek Oberoi shared, “I have been madly in love with my wife for the last 14 years. Even today when she puts her makeup on, I keep admiring her and when she catches me doing that, it is different kind of romantic. That feeling of acknowledgement makes a woman feel womanly.”
Speaking about the shift he witnessed in his personal life from the time he met his wife to now after having kids, Vivek said, “I moved from grand gestures to little ones.” He explained, “When you are younger, you think of the biggest gestures. When I proposed to Priyanka before our wedding, she had gone to Florence for shopping. I landed up without telling her, set the whole stage, dress, shoes, jewellery for her and left a note, ‘meet me on the bridge across forever’. This is where we first met. She dressed up and walked down and she was welcomed with music and then she saw a carriage and she met me and we spent the whole evening in that carriage. I was dressed in a tuxedo with a ring and then wrote a poem for her. But, this you can’t keep doing every time. So here is when the small gestures come in place to express that you still love and care.”
Vivek met Priyanka when he was in his post heartbreak phase and had decided to never get married. He said, “My journey from I don’t want to meet this girl to I cannot live without her, I just knew this is the girl I want to spend rest of my life with.”
However, when asked if they both apologise to each other post arguments, the actor quipped, “There is no concept of first. Its me, who always tells sorry.”
Vivek also spoke about the importance of marriage and how it helps build a sense of commitment and trust and a medium to pass values to the next generation. Vivek shared, “I believe marriage is a practice of how to work in a team. It is a practice in trust, compassion, respect, because even though you are familiar, you take each other for granted… you have to feel the inner respect. You will not disrespect your partner, neither will you let anybody else disrespect them. It teaches you a lot of things including commitment. It is an amazing institution.”
He added, “When you have kids, it goes to another level because they learn from you. They observe your energy. They see how you behave with your partner and they are printing the blueprints of how a relationship looks. If you are misbehaving, they will think this is how it is between a husband and wife, but if they will see you respectful towards each other, correcting mistakes, loving, they will know this is how it is meant to be.”
Vivek who has been married to Priyanka for over a decade also shared his opinion about open marriage. He said, “I don’t understand the concept of open marriage. I don’t understand the definition of open exclusivity. Either you are exclusive or you are nothing, there cannot be anything like open exclusivity. I think I am a typical Punjabi guy. Maybe not made for this culture or maybe not as liberal. I am very desi. There is a reason people have been following an exclusive relationship for ages.”
Sharing his relationship, the actor said, “My commitment with Priyanka is different. In fourteen years of marriage, I look at her every day and ask myself, ‘Among all the woman in the universe, would I still choose her?’ and the answer is yes, I will still choose her. It is the most liberating feeling because you are in it because you want to not because you have to.”
Calling himself lucky, Vivek shared the only demand his wife makes is ask for his time. “She only asks for my time and gets excited whenever she knows we are going out together. Expensive stuff don’t excite her. And this makes you feel the luckiest that all that makes her happy is spending time with you.”
Vivek Oberoi and Priyanka Alva tied the knot in 2010. They are parents to two children, who mostly reside in Dubai.
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